5 Books That Changed My Life

The post I had planned for today isn’t ready yet, so please accept this humble offering: a very brief biography of my mind, in the form of five books that changed my life.*

Griffin & Sabine, by Nick Bantock
I begged my parents for the original trilogy for my thirteenth birthday, and have reread them at least once a year since then. When I discovered the sequels in a bookstore in Providence, RI, I was ecstatic. These are physically beautiful books, being as much art as text, which tell an enrapturing story of love and spiritual alchemy through letters and postcards. These books are not for the ambiguity averse, but I truly get something new out of every reading. In a certain sense, these books have formed the map for my life.

The Power of Myth, by Joseph Campbell and Bill Moyers
I discovered this accessible doorway into Joseph Campbell’s work during my senior year of high school, and promptly read it twice in a row. I had long been enamored of Carl Jung and his archetypes, but it was this book, the literary translation of a series of interviews, that really opened the doors of meaning and story for me.

Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life, by Anne Lamott
This book was recommended to me by the admissions interviewer at a college to which I took an instant dislike. This book, however, made the whole trip worthwhile. Anne Lamott is funny and vulnerable and honest. I really can’t think of a better trio of qualities, in a writer or a human being. As the subtitle indicates, this book is primarily about writing, but it is writing as a window into life as a whole. I believe that I am overdue to give this one a rereading.

Finding Your Own North Star, by Martha Beck
A supervisor at my first real job out of college recommended this book to me. I read it, liked it, incorporated a few of its ideas, and promptly forgot about it for several years. Just when I needed it most, I stumbled upon life coaching, recognized Martha Beck’s name, and the rest is history. Though I didn’t get it right away, this is the book that led me to my present career.

Refuse to Choose!, by Barbara Sher
I honestly don’t remember how I found this book, but I’m very glad that I did. Sometimes you read a book and it’s like the author has been watching you for your entire life. It’s creepy, but also edifying. Until I read this book I had no idea why I kept flitting from interest to interest, seemingly never sticking to one thing long enough to master it. It turns out that I’m what’s called a scanner, and I’m not supposed to dive deeply into only one subject, but sample from a smörgåsbord and draw connections between them all. I was nice to see that I’m not lazy, I’m just different.

BONUS:
Finding Your Way in a Wild New World, by Martha Beck
I didn’t want to include this in the formal list, since I only read it four months ago and thus can not rightly say that it changed my life, but I had to give it a shout out. In my opinion, this is Martha’s best work to date.

So, what books have had a particular impact on your life? I’d love to hear about them!

*Inspired by this post by Dianne Sylvan, a spiritual blogger and writer of fine vampire novels, whose blog I have followed for probably six years.

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  • http://www.wholelifestrategies.com Sally

    Mmmm. Now I want to go grab my copy of Bird by Bird and curl up with a latte. I recommend that book all the time. It helped me stop talking about writing and just sit down to do it. One book that has been a big influence on me, especially spiritually, is A Path With Heart by Jack Kornfield. And Cheryl Richardson’s Stand Up for Your Life… sometimes the timing of a book can be perfect. That one was for me.

    • http://www.3speedlife.com Joanna Weston

      Anne Lamott is simply amazing, isn’t she? I’ll have to add A Path With Heart to my reading list. Thanks!

  • http://www.blazeabrilliantpath.com Blaze

    Hmmm…how very interesting, have you been to my house to see my bookshelves? The only book I haven’t read yet is the Power of Myth, but I do have other titles by Joseph Campbell, thanks for the suggestion!

    • http://www.3speedlife.com Joanna Weston

      The Power of Myth is a lot more basic than his other work, but it benefits from the obvious chemistry that he had with Bill Moyer, and the natural energy of the interview. I’ve always wanted to see the recording that the book is taken from, but I haven’t don it yet. Someday!

  • http://ownyourlifecoaching.com/ An

    What a great list! Love me some Martha Beck too :) And I’m definitely gonna check out Barbara Sher’s book. Think I might be a scanner too ;)

    • http://www.3speedlife.com Joanna Weston

      I think that there are a lot more scanners out there than one would think! We’re encouraged to dive deeply into just one thing, but I think that approach is impossible for so, so many of us.

  • http://www.bealertandmakenoeffort.com Ann Stanley

    Hi Joanna,
    I came to your blog via your comment on the Splintered Mind, about consciously deciding to follow whims, which I thought very wise. Then I was delighted to see your list of books, none of which I know but all of which sound exactly suited to my current preoccupations and which I’m going to read. Here are some of my most influential books: Little Women, which helped me get in touch with my inner Jo (and to a lesser extent, Beth), Siddartha, which helps me get me straight about the necessity of living live and getting wisdom that way (I’m inclined to think a lot), and The Autobiography of Bertrand Russell for the purity of the prose, the honesty and the insight into the intellectual life of the 20th Century.
    I like your blog and hereby invite you over to mine for a visit. We seem to be on a similar journey (are you INFP?)

    • http://www.3speedlife.com Joanna Weston

      Nice to cyber meet you! Thanks for the invitation to your blog — I just checked it out and left you a comment. :-) And yes, I am an INFP! What gave me away?

      • http://www.bealertandmakenoeffort.com Ann Stanley

        I just knew!

  • http://www.creativemoney.biz Mindy Crary

    Thanks for the list! Of course, I know if you like Martha Beck, the rest must be great recommendations :o )

    • http://www.3speedlife.com Joanna Weston

      Ha! Thanks! ;-)

  • http://www.ezbusinessgrowth.com Yvette

    Hmmm…I never heard of any of these books – thanks for this list. Will definitely add these to my reading list. I actually, just finished reading a great, inspirational book called – Successful People are Full of C.R.A.P.: A Step-by-Step Guide to Getting it Together And Achieving Your Dreams by Rachel Luna. Check it out, its good.

    • http://www.3speedlife.com Joanna Weston

      That book wins for the title alone! I just looked it up on amazon, and it looks interesting. I’ll have to add it to my list, thanks!

  • http://debrasmouse.com Debra Smouse

    I’ve read most of the books on that list – and in fact, just finished Bird by Bird last week! I haven’t read Refuse to Change yet, so thank you for another book to add to my list!

    • http://www.3speedlife.com Joanna Weston

      That’s so funny! I feel like Bird by Bird has been popping up on my radar a lot lately. Maybe it’s time for a rereading?

  • Caely

    What a great list. If you like The Power of Myth, I have to recommend Women Who Run With the Wolves. It delves into a similar territory of archetype, story, and personal journey from a feminine perspective.

    • http://www.3speedlife.com Joanna Weston

      Thanks! I didn’t really like Women Who Run with the Wolves when I first read it, but that was 10 years ago. So many people have recommended it lately though that I’m tempted to give it another try.

  • Suzanne

    I read “Bird by Bird” MANY years ago, still have a well-worn copy & explain the concept to so many friends when they feel overwhelmed w/life & their “to do” list (& daughter when she was in law school). Just focusing on one bird (task, assignment, or chore, etc.) at a time & not thinking of the totality that needs to be accomplished removes the paralysis that being overwhelmed can cause.

    I also recommend Julia Cameron’s “The Artist’s Way.”

    I was exposed to that book in an Adult Ed class that I took & it sparked creativity in all the students so much that we continued to meet monthly after the class was over to share our art (writers, painters, videographers, poets, singers–the whole gamet). It is wonderful to share the passion of other creative people & be exposed to the process of creating other mediums that I don’t do–but I’ve been inspired to try. She also created the concept of “Morning Pages” that have been really helpful.

    Also, Natalie Goldberg’s books are great for writers!

  • Arber Racaj

    hi there, nice to read about books that have influence in one’s life. Also quite interesting writing and ideas.
    You asked others to tell which books influenced tham so I’ll give it a try!
    1) Siddharta by Herman Hesse. I guess it was here that I read for the first time about a term “self knowledge”. Probably the most important ‘discovery’ of my life! 2) commentaries on living (three volumes) by J. Krishnamurti. - 3) cg Jung “Memories, dreams, reflections”; reading this I finally understood some crucial moments of my childhood and how these moments define my adulthood…4) Slaughterhouse 5 by Kurt Vonnegut; understanding the insanity of war, nationalism, patriotism and understanding the mechanisms used by government (authorities) in influencing the masses (brainwash)  5) “post office” by Charles Bukowski convinced me that I don’t need to be “schooled” in writing in order to write myself. It learned me that the main thing is to learn how one is to express him/herself. I learned to express myself through writing and that writing is the best way for me to express myself (this after I learned myself playing guitar and after I finished five years of art academy (drawing).
    kind regards, arbër